Terri Hughes Blog

let it Go...

Posted on Thursday, November 20, 2014

In this season of giving thanks for what we cherish, it may also be a good time to recognize what to let go of.  Let’s face it.  We get easily stuck in our daily habits or with our long-held ideas or beliefs.  And sometimes those entrenched habits or patterns are exactly the ones we need to re-examine and then let go.

Learning to let go is not about giving in or giving up, or defeat or failure.  Letting go doesn’t imply a lack of care, but rather a new wisdom in flexibility and expansion.  It includes being thankful for the experiences of the past, but also about having the courage to accept change, and clear the path to allow for continued growth.  

I’m working with a CEO who had to make the painful decision to let a manager go after seventeen years of service.  While the manager contributed in his first few years, the last decade was trying for everyone around him.  The CEO and other team members made excuses for his behavior and closed their eyes to the real damage he was doing as an ineffective leader who was unable to let go of unproductive behaviors he had developed over the years.  As is usually the case, the behaviors escalated, and became so evident that they became impossible to dismiss, and the manager was released.   It’s easy to put off what we don’t want to face, even when we know the result is more positive for everyone.

If you’re wondering what may be important to “let go” of… see if any of these strike a familiar cord:

  • The perfect life (work and/or personal)
  • Anger or resentment
  • Excuses
  • Procrastination
  • Negativity
  • Toxic relationships
  • Resisting change
  • Need to control
  • The past...

Try this simple exercise.  Ask yourself “What do I need to let go of?”   Simply list those habits, actions or behaviors that slow you down and get in the way of you being the best you can be.  Then ask “For each item on my list, how do I benefit from continuing to hold on?”  If you’re struggling with identifying a benefit then you’ve got your answer – it’s time to let go.  Just listing what you need to let go of will raise your level of awareness and allow you to loosen that grip.  

It's a great time of year to think about what you might like to leave behind in 2014 to make 2015 the best year ever!


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